Even though they are kind of a lot of work to write up, I enjoy sharing my Our $200 Grocery Budget: What I Spent & Saved this Week posts with you all.
I don’t do these posts because I think the way we live and grocery shop is so amazing. I do them because I love to help people save money.
These What I Spent & Saved posts allow me to share ideas and tips with you that help me save on our groceries, and then, in turn, can hopefully inspire you and give you ideas on ways that you can save too.
Many people are frustrated because they feel like it’s impossible to eat healthy on a budget. By showing exactly what I purchase on a tight budget, it gives people a chance to see that yes, you really can eat pretty healthy without needing to go broke.
I know many of you enjoy these posts because you have told me that you were inspired or that you learned something new that is helping you save. And seriously, when that happens it totally makes my day because I realize that my goal for these posts was accomplished!
But I’ve had a nagging worry ever since I first started doing these What I Spent & Saved posts 5 ½ years ago. Occasionally I’ve addressed it in my spending posts and in my response to people’s comments. And I’ve said it countless times to readers that I’ve talked to in real life.
But I feel like it needs to be said here too, in a blog post that hopefully will be seen by most of you.
So what is it that worries me? Simply that these posts will make you feel inadequate or less than because you don’t have a $200 grocery budget, or because you don’t coupon as much as I do, or because you hate grocery shopping. I worry because I know that as women we are so quick to do that, to compare ourselves with someone else, to feel inadequate.
And I really, really don’t want to be an enabler of that.
So I just want to be perfectly clear: I don’t expect everyone else to have a $200/mo. grocery budget. And I believe that you can be frugal and spend more than $200/mo. too!
Here’s why.
Why You Shouldn’t Have a $200/Mo. Grocery Budget
(even though we do!)
1. We all have different strengths
One of my strengths is being able to save money. In fact, I’m wired in such a way that I almost can’t keep myself from looking at life through the lens of frugality!
But you know what? There are plenty of other things that I don’t do so well.
I’m not a natural when it comes to decorating. It takes a lot of thought and effort for me to make a room look lovely. And I feel totally overwhelmed if I try to tackle a craft project because for as long as I can remember, creating things like that has just felt frustrating.
And while I love the idea of preserving memories with beautiful scrapbooks, I’ve finally accepted the fact that it’s just not my thing and I don’t even bother to attempt it.
I don’t have a garden and I’m not an outdoor sort of person who loves creating beautiful flower beds.
Chances are, your strengths are quite different from mine and honestly, I think our diversity is part of what makes the world so interesting!
If being frugal doesn’t come naturally for you, that’s okay. No, it doesn’t give you a free pass to spend your money carelessly. But it does mean that how you spend your money is going to look different than what it does for me.
Or maybe you are frugal by nature, but still spend $450/mo. on groceries. You don’t necessarily need to feel bad about that either because….
2. We all have different needs and preferences
We eat fairly simple meals. I think that our meals are tasty and filling and honestly, we enjoy the way and don’t feel deprived.
But we pretty much never eat steak (unless we go out to eat!) and meats are often served more as a side than as a main dish.
In the winter, we eat a lot of soups not only because we love them, but also because they are frugal. And we don’t have food allergies or eat organic (unless I can get it really inexpensively).
Your family’s needs and preferences are going to look different than ours.
Your husband might really like to have large servings of meat at every meal and be pretty opposed to meatless meals. Or maybe he feels like soups shouldn’t really even be considered food.
You might have a child that is gluten intolerant. And eating only organic may feel super important to you.
That is okay! Your family is not mine, my family is not yours. There is no cookie cutter grocery budget that will fit everyone’s needs.
3. We all have different demands on our time
I’m not gonna lie. Shopping frugally, especially if you use coupons like I do, take a decent amount of extra time.
Many weeks I spend three hours planning my shopping trip and doing the shopping. It’s not that my life isn’t busy or that I don’t have plenty of other things to do, but for a variety of reasons, my husband and I have decided to continue to make this way of shopping a priority.
For us, at this point the benefits outweigh the negatives. But there may come a time when we decide otherwise.
You know your life, your schedule. Only you know what you have time for and it may be that even if you would love to coupon and deal shop, that you simply can’t right now due to life circumstances.
We all have to know our limits, to decide what is best for us.
The bottom line…
Yes, I think it’s important to shop smart and be mindful of how we spend the money that God has trusted us with.
But I think it’s equally important to remember that it is going to look different for everyone.
So, if you’ve been feeling bad that you spend more than $200/mo. on your groceries, go ahead and extend yourself some grace.
And remember, it doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t frugal!
However…if you are looking for more ways to lower your grocery budget, you might enjoy getting some inspiration from these posts!
Life Breath Present
What a great way to try helping other families/mothers know that we are all different and that’s ok. What, how, why you spend what you do on groceries/food each month can so easily become a comparison trap, that I do agree it’s important to recognize that everyone’s needs and likes are different, which is so very ok! 🙂
Christine
thoughtful, insightful and considerate post! keep up the good work!
Leslie DeJarnette
Thanks for the reminder that in Christ we are all unique with different strengths and weaknesses. I do appreciate that you help people save money. That’s a great ministry.
ThriftyFrugalMom
Yes, Leslie, I’m a fan of spending money wisely, at the same time, I realize that God created us all with unique gifts and so the way this looks for each person/family is going to be different. I think it’s so important to remember that and not play the comparison game! And thanks for your encouragement too. I pray often that this blog could be a blessing to others.
Sarah
You make some great points. I always feel bad that our grocery budget is hanging out somewhere between $400 and $500/month for a family of four. HOWEVER, my husband and I love big breakfasts (pancakes w/ hashbrowns and fruit). My husband will not eat meatless meals and loves his seafood. I’m as frugal as a I can be given our tastes. We like steak, ribs, and lobster. That’s just the way it is.
ThriftyFrugalMom
Yes, I know you aren’t the only people that would find it hard to eat entirely like we do! 🙂 It definitely helps that we both grew up living pretty simply. Blessings to you as you figure out creative ways to make your budget work for you and your family!
Gentle Joy
It is so good to do what we can…. what God gifts us to do…. and to be careful to not compare ourselves to others…. you are so right that we all have different strengths and weaknesses… Saving money is great… and we do a lot of that, but I also realize there are so many factors involved.
ThriftyFrugalMom
Yes, totally! The comparison thing can be so easy to fall into and that is just not helpful in any aspect of life, really.
Elise
Great points! Taking the demands on your time into consideration is a big one. I’ve started having to ask myself “can I save more money doing this, than I would make if I were spending this time working?”
Sometimes, the answer is no.
Thanks for sharing!
ThriftyFrugalMom
That’s a great question, Elise! I know I’ve definitely gotten choosier with how I save as life got busier with having 3 children and working from home as a blogger. It’s just so important to take the whole picture (time and money) into consideration!